Action is the friend of your confidence—more than having objectives and aiming for greater efficiency. Especially if your self-confidence is already low, dwelling too much on achieving results or efficiency can even penalise your confidence—Our advice is to focus on regular action. Effectively attaining a goal will come later.
How to achieve your goals effectively?
We like this theme. Really. Because it mainly covers 2 points that We greatly appreciate: objectives and efficiency. Or, more generally, personal productivity. We consider these to be 2 essential areas because they involve:
- to have a more or less long-term vision of what you want to achieve and experience;
- to dedicate time to the actions necessary to perform these objectives;
- to worry about the use of his time and the methods employed so as not to waste his resources: time, energy, will, …
Your life and your daily life have meaning in every sense of the word.
However, the main subject of this blog is self-confidence. And We know many blogs and bloggers who will tell you very well about goals and effectiveness.
So We prefer to adapt this subject to our sauce.
We’ll tell you about the risks to your self-confidence of seeking too much efficiency. And give you a simple method to avoid this.
The risk is simple: losing self-confidence. Not totally, of course. Let’s say it may just be having doubts about your abilities, which decreases confidence. If you already have low self-confidence, this can be dramatic and push you into inaction.
Action is the best way to regain self-confidence.
First of all, let’s see how it works.
What are the risks?
Whether we are interested in the “objective” aspect of the theme of this Crossroads or its “effectiveness” aspect, the dangers are the same:
- the comparison
The risk of comparison
Comparing yourself to others is always a bad thing. And it is dangerous if you compare yourself with those with better results or with the results promised by a trainer.
The risk is to devalue yourself, to consider yourself less than what you are or what you are capable of.
You can still achieve successes and goals. But if you get less or in a more significant amount of time, you will no longer see success: you will see failure. And, according to you, the causes of this failure will be you and your weak abilities.
The risk of failure
We don’t think there is a need to write much for you to understand what the risks are.
You are aiming for a goal. And you don’t reach it. The cause? You! And you lose a little more confidence.
Being too objective and efficiency-oriented can be dangerous.
In summary, having goals and worrying about their effectiveness, yes. But this can be to the detriment of one’s confidence and not to mention motivation.
If all goes well, the effects on your confidence can be significant and beneficial. But if it doesn’t go so well.
If you have self-confidence, it can wane. And if you have little or no self-confidence, it’s simply taking the problem from the wrong side!
Regular action is the friend of your confidence.
If you lack self-confidence, the most important thing is to act first. Quite simply.
It doesn’t matter success or failure, although success is preferable. No matter how effective. The main thing is to act. Still and always.
Rather than comparing yourself to others and worrying about your effectiveness, focus first on what you’re doing.
Every day, set yourself 2 to 3 actions to accomplish:
- 1 vital action to do at all costs;
- 1 to 2 additional actions.
The goal is to do the vital action every day and then do all or some of the additional actions depending on your time, motivation, and energy.
Focus only on doing. And take action every day. No matter how effective and successful (We know, We repeat ourselves :-))
Over time, you will get into the habit of taking action. Slowly, you will tend to act more and more because measure calls for action.
Acting is already a success in itself. Look at this first because success calls for success and confidence.
Robert Louis Stevenson would tell you:
This is precisely what it is about.
- Your daily and everyday actions are seeds.
- Your harvest will undoubtedly be the result of these actions.
- Your harvest will also be accustomed to daily action.
- Your harvest will also, and above all, be self-confidence.
Do these actions earlier in the day. The idea is to fix a time and a place. Otherwise, it will be too vague; you will push back within a day, and, in the end, you will not act.
Goals come next
Who says action says objective. To act is good. But it is knowing why and what is even better—and knowing when, where and how is ideal!
Concerning the when and the where, We have already spoken about it just above, and it remains essentially the why and the what—a goal.
The actions We told you about above should not be ones you already do regularly, fluently or efficiently, and dishes and groceries are not to be considered.
You will favour 2 types of actions. The first type concerns those that build an objective: take control of your finances, increase your income, and learn the mechanics. This is not an action that will allow you to achieve a goal; it is the accumulation of actions. Our advice therefore stands. But We will not talk more about this type of action.
The second type concerns your self-confidence.
These actions should work on your lack of confidence and take you outside your comfort zone.
The goal is to trivialize what scares you. To no longer be afraid.
If you’re shy, it’s not about getting anything from a stranger, and it’s just a question of daring to approach this stranger. Just ask them the time, and you will do better later.
If you’re uncomfortable with the opposite sex, only do it with the opposite sex, and you’ll ask for a date later.
Choose actions that scare you a bit. If they don’t scare you, they won’t work on your lack of confidence. But if they scare you too much, you won’t do them, and you’ll break the dynamic.
And, above all, act every day.
In terms of self-confidence, efficiency matters little. Because the effects will be minimal at first and only really be felt over time, worrying too much about it can even be penalizing.
The key is to have an action objective, much more than a result objective. Choose actions that work on your confidence by trivializing what scares you. And do this every day.
Over time, you will be less afraid, gain self-confidence, and take more ambitious initiatives. Above all, you will have become accustomed to taking action and no longer letting your fears slow you down.