How to Stop Self Sabotage
“Self-sabotage, me? No, you’re kidding! »
That’s true? You never tell yourself in your head
“I suck” 🙄
“I’m not going to make it; it’s too difficult” 😥
“I’m going to fail my studies” 😰
“Uh, well yes, it’s true, it happens to me….” Great! Because the first thing to do to say stop negative thoughts is to recognize that you have them! So congratulations to you on this first step! 👏 But the most complex part remains to be done: transform them into positive and constructive thoughts!
Because you’ll admit it, these thoughts are like poison that slowly seeps into you, and the more you dwell on them in your mind, the more you believe them… And that’s the problem…
Let me tell you a nice little story, but not just any story: yours! We will describe two scenarios to you: read them carefully and tell us in the comments section where you recognize yourself the most! At the end of the article, you will find practical solutions to say STOP ✋⛔ to your negative thoughts and to transform your self-sabotage into a super-motivated Super Hero mindset 🤩💪! Are you ready? 👌 So here we go!
Scenario 1 in self-sabotage mode
Your alarm clock rings at 6:30 am; you haven’t slept well, you’re tired; you press the snooze button to get some respite “a few more minutes of sleep won’t hurt me!”… except that you go back to sleep and don’t hear the second ring of the alarm clock…
You wake up with a start on a bad feeling, and you’re right: your alarm clock shows 7:30 am!!!! Your comparative literacy class starts at 8:30 am! “Hey, shit! I am a calamity! » You hurry to get ready: you put on jeans and a T-shirt, swallow a coffee…
And you run to catch your bus, which is 10 minutes late. “But what the hell did I do?! » (uh yes, I admit it, my inspiration is not always the most subtle 😜) « And now, because of it, I’m going to be late for class! (oh hey, is it really because of the bus?)
You finally arrive at uni all out of breath and enter the amphitheatre discreetly. You try hard to follow what the teacher says, but your thoughts are elsewhere” why did I press that snooze button? » « and this bus which is usually on time, is my luck! “I suck at arriving late“…
End of the course. You go to the BU and their wreckage… in your haste, you forgot the business to prepare your presentation for the week pro. “I am a real calamity! So you decide to work on the comparative literacy course. Still, you can’t concentrate because it’s going through your head” I’m incapable, I’m going to fail my presentation, I won’t be able to finish it in time, it will be uninteresting like me“.
At noon you go to restaurant U. On the menu, only dishes you don’t like “I’m in bad luck today! Disgusted, you swallow a sandwich in 4th gear.
You chained the courses distractedly until the hour of the TP of contemporary literature. The teacher wakes you up by sending you to the blackboard to explain the text! Your explanations are good, but not thorough enough according to the teacher: “I suck” and “I’m never going to pass my exam!” I will never graduate! I would never have a job! I will have to work at McDo or end up unemployed…”.
You come home depressed, and you recline on your couch. To cheer yourself up, you watch your favourite series on Netflix. It’s 11 pm, and you haven’t seen the time pass, and you haven’t revised or worked on your presentation. Your thoughts keep coming back, “I’m dumb, dumb, dumb,” “I’m good. Nothing” “I am unable“.
You go to bed with these thoughts, and as you constantly dwell on them, you can’t sleep “no. the… unable… not succeed…“
And guess what? The next day, the same scenario begins again. You can’t get up.
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Scenario 2 in transformation mode
Your alarm clock rings at 6:30 a.m. you still feel a little tired and sleepy, but you stretch and turn off the alarm clock. “Already? I would have slept a little longer! When you have to go, you have to go! Go! it’s off to a great day! “. You get up; you smile; it’s sunny outside, and you’re going to have a good day!
You get ready; you make yourself a hearty breakfast, then go to catch your bus, which is 10 minutes late. “Ok! It happens, it’s bad luck, but I’ll be able to read a little more! »
You settle in the amphitheatre a little late, but you concentrate and listen carefully to the teacher.
End of the course, you go to BU, but you notice that you forgot your things to prepare for the presentation of the pro week. “Damn! How can I prepare it? When will I be able to return to BU? And what can I do now to be productive? You start to think, look for a book on the subject of your presentation, and you read it, taking notes: that’s always the case!
At noon, reinvigorated by your progress on your presentation, you go to eat at restaurant U, but no dish appeals to you. “Good, ok! It’s not my luck! The challenge is to taste a dish I’m not used to eating, which doesn’t appeal to me at first sight! And you’re doing well because to finish it was not bad this dish!
You chain the courses until the TP, where the teacher questions you. You go to the blackboard to explain the text, but your explanations aren’t provided with enough. “It’s not very pleasant to hear, but the teacher is right. I haven’t worked hard enough! It’s not my favourite subject, but I’ll try to do better next time! In any case, this experience was instructive! »
You go home, eat a little, and then go back to work on your presentation. At 10 p.m., to reward yourself, you watch an episode of your favourite series before falling asleep, visualizing your past day and that of tomorrow: “I’m doing my best! » « What could I improve to succeed in my studies?
How to turn negative thoughts into a Super Hero Mindset?
We agree that scenario one works in self-sabotage mode and listens to Radio Plainte 😖😠 on a loop while scenario 2 is in solution mode and listens to Podcast Smile 😀, right? We tell you frankly, stay on Radio complaint, and you will soon end up in burn-out. So how do you switch to stop wasting your days continually rehashing negative thoughts 🤙 and get into constructive, positive thinking mode?
Well, it’s simple, but it takes a bit of practice to Stop Self Sabotage!
- When you have a negative thought: stop your self-sabotage immediately ✋⛔! Try to realize as soon as possible that you are in complaint mode! Stop and take the time to breathe! Then pass the negative thought through the smile machine! Mouse! 😀
- Then put on your superhero costume and go into solution mode! Ask yourself the right questions! Turn your “whys” into “hows”! Solutions come when you ask the right questions! In addition, it gives you energy and motivation to help you stop self sabotage! 💯👍👌
- To help you have an unfailing motivation, make yourself a list of mantras that you post on your fridge or above your desk on a mood board. Watch them and read them every day! Keep following us; we post an inspiring mantra per week to succeed in your life!
So are you more scenario A or B? Are you ready to stop self sabotage, wear your superhero costume and change your mindset? Tell us in the comments below!👇👇👇